How are you complicit in creating the conditions of your lives that you say you don’t want?

Journal Prompt #2

I love this prompt, which I discovered last weekend reading Jerry Colonna’s book “Reboot – Leadership and the Art of Growing Up“.

Jerry supports startup founders in their development as CEOs. He offers this powerful prompt to help leaders see how they have been creating the cultures and environments they complained about.

What is true for startups is also true for our lives. We often co-create the things we complain about. We create over-reliance by supporting others too much. I do this people I love, I sometimes support them a little too much, so they rely on me instead of themselves. We create unhealthy habits by using our circumstances as excuses. I love treating myself to some “good food” when I had a hard day. And, we create false beliefs by not challenging the assumptions that keep us safe but small. Mine, for the longest time, was: “I am bad in front of a camera.”

These were some of the conditions I created for myself. What about yours?Time – as Jerry writes – for some radical self-inquiry!

Let me know your thoughts and insights!

As this prompt shows, journaling is one of the most powerful self-development tools out there. The best part, it is free!

Once you developed a journaling habit, you have it for life. You won’t even need prompts anymore. Journaling is like a paper coach without a $250 US/h price tag.

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2 Responses

  1. For me, since I did not finish university and my sister and husband had PhDs I felt inadequate and did not want to write stories because I felt inferior to them as they had published.

    Eventually, 30 years later, I completed my degree and is now venturing into telling my stories. Still reluctant to write but starting to venture into video story telling.

    1. Fazela, this is such an amazing achievement. It’s not easy to acknowledge, share, and work on our self limiting beliefs. I am sure this makes for a great story in and of itself. I always felt intimidated by writing as I was “bad” at it in school due to being dyslexic. This was until I really wanted to do my PhD and had to find a way. The best thing that happened to me was a teacher who introduced me to “structured writing.” And just like that academic writing transformed from mystery to design. She showed me how any text has a logic that can be created and that I was in control of. I got so excited by this that I started to teach thesis writing to master students and researched and wrote a manual on thesis writing. That just to say, I can really relate to what you share and – having seen you and having had a similar struggle – I know you will get there!

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