It can be so freeing to say these things, but we often fear the hurt that comes with it, although things might be better in the long run. But saying what needs to be said is sometimes essential to be seen for and thus become the person that you want to be next.
For me, a big thing is to tell people NO! No, I don’t want this job. No, I don’t want to coach you for free, although you are a friend. No, I don’t want to write this paper or talk about this topic that I am no longer interested in.
If I do say no, I feel guilt and relief at the same time. Guilty for not helping or engaging and relieved because I am free to pursue what I want to pursue.
What is it that you don’t say that needs to be said?